People change in many ways. Experiences always change us a little bit, and the more experiences we have, the more we change. However, with age, the number of changes get high and we change harder and harder, because we build a lot of walls around us and we enforce the existing ones. Every experience we live makes our walls stronger. This is why people get stubborn with age, they change harder and harder.
There is however a property we can learn or encounter as experience. This is openness. If someone is open to change and can hold to this personal property, one can always change in very unexpected ways.
For example: I was always a person, who liked challenge, liked to travel and experience new and exciting things. But, because of a small experience I had, I changed. Now I want to stay near my home and build a future. It is a totally strange thing for me, to change in this way.
I thought about this a lot. I still do not know the cause, but it has to do something with the realization that I enjoy creating useful things around me. And traveling and just messing around is not creating any value.
So, this small realization played the main role of a huge change.
I am fairly certain that other people have such changes in their lives and this usually happens when one has enough experience to not thrive for the great mysteries of life anymore, but just enjoy every minute of it.
Just when I think I have learned the way to live, life changes. (Hugh Prather)
This post will not be about true love and love at first sight and other unrealistic things. This post is about how we change in order to pull in new people among whom we can find a true soul mate.
During our life we meet a lot of people. Among them we always find someone that meets our expectations, but have you thought about the fact that you always choose from your current knowledge base? What this means is that there is always a soul-mate for you among the people you know, because you are not better than the people you are surrounded with.
If you move forward, travel a lot or work in an environment where you constantly meet new people, your knowledge base gets bigger and the conditions you have for a soul-mate can change and get better. The filters get sharper, if you will.
Why is this? This is because on the road you change. You realize that the world is much bigger than the small environment you are used to. When you realize this, your EGO will shrink and you will be open to new things, new personalities. What happens here is that the old loves, persons you thought are your best matches, loose their charm, they get less interesting and less good, because you now have a much larger base to compare to.
If the people you know cannot keep up with you, they will slowly fall behind. They will not be forgotten, but they will stay in the zone they were left behind. And you move forward to other zones, better zones to meet newer people, to learn from them, to change yourself. And you change without even realizing, and one day you find that you are surrounded by kinds of people you always dreamed of reading your favorite books or viewing your favorite shows.