Not choosing is an option!

All my life everyone around me just told me that I have to choose this or that. The people who surrounded me were so simple, that they only saw logic in choice.

What I say about this is: this is bullshit. Not choosing is an option. Let me give you some simple examples.

There is the situation when you are with your friends and they are arguing about something and they are divided into two groups about the topic. Then they tell you to choose. For you the topic means nothing, you do not care about either of the choices, so you do not choose. Usually this causes conflict, because your friends will tell you that if you are not with them, than you are against them. Bullshit! You just don’t care. I personally had a lot of conflict from this, since people around me cannot understand that I do not choose because I am indifferent in the topic. All the choices are equally good or equally bad.

Now the example I gave is in a small group. What about the country we live in? Authority does not like you to not choose. In the world of infinite choices they want you to choose. Either a product or a political view, you are forced to choose. I say, Bullshit! I will not choose. I don’t care about politics and when I want some product, I simply get it, I do not spend hours searching for better offers. I know what I want.

Okay, now we arrive to the more spiritual part of not choosing. Think about your life: you are always forced to choose in everything. Every decision is actually a choice in life. In small things you do not feel the consequences so much, but there are really hard life choices: do you stay with your father, or mother after they divorced? Do you marry that girl, or not? See, not choosing is an option.

Not choosing means anything can happen. Can you understand the freedom in that? When you are faced with a situation where you have to make a very hard choice: simply don’t do it. Who said that you have to? Nobody can force you. If you just step back and observe, you can quickly find out which choice would have been the batter.

Oh, you say if the opportunity comes and you do not choose, you will lose it? You sure feel that way in the moment, but there are no bad choices in life. No matter what path you take in life, they are all the good path. That is why not choosing is also an option. You simply take the stress off your shoulders and walk away. Let the choices solve their issues between each other.

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Everything is empty, if it has no soul

You probably know the feeling when you do some activity, but it feels empty. You go out with friends on a Saturday night to have fun, but the party feels empty. You go on a trip, see beautiful places, but you fell empty during it, the whole thing feels empty.

Have you ever wondered why that is? The answer is simple. It feels empty, because you put no soul in it. You have no dedication towards the thing you do, so it has no significance, no importance. It becomes empty.

This is a very dangerous thing, because what really happens is that you are becoming empty. Your soul starts to drain out, you start to become a piece of rock. This can have a lot of reasons, but sadly, it is a very common thing to witness.

Usually something becomes empty if you do it too many times. You get annoyed by it, you do not want to do it anymore. Work is such a thing, because you HAVE to do it. There are very few people who actually enjoy their work, who love what they do. They will never get bored, the things they do do not become empty.

So what cane one do to prevent emptiness? First of all, you need to realize what is happening. You have to make clear inside of you, what causes the emptiness you feel and why it causes it. After you know the answer, you have more options:

  • you accept the situation and try to enjoy it, as much as possible (this means you trick your mind to act like it is the first time you meet a situation)
  • you change yourself, or you change the circumstances that caused the emptiness inside you

One thing is sure: never let emptiness take over, because it leads to depression. Be brave, take steps and look for new ways to fill everything you do with soul.

How can your mentality make your life beautiful

A lot of people walk this earth not being satisfied with their lives. It is true, that many people are born into harsh surroundings, poor families or born with disabilities. The problem is that usually these people do not consider this situation fair and they become deeply frustrated with life.

Let me tell you that how you perceive life depends only on you and your perspective. Let me tell you why. If you whine all the time about how hard life is, you simply create a mindset for yourself where everything is hard, you cannot achieve anything. This is not science or some study, this is simple logic. It comes from repetition. If you repeat something long enough, you will learn it. This is how humans and animals learn.

So, if you just whine, life will suck. But what if you sat back a bit and thought about life a bit different. Let me put it this way: you were born into a beautiful playground where you can test your limits and can play as much as you want. How you play is up to you. No matter what you do, no matter where you arrive, you are simply here to play.

If you view life from this angle, you will realize that life is not hard at all. You can do anything you want. If you want goals that are hard to achieve, the play will be harder, but it is still just a game.

We are here on this beautiful playground to live and play happily regardless of the circumstances we were born into. Everything is possible and the thing you can do, infinite. So just play along and enjoy life while you are here.